Sue.
Thanks so much for sharing that great story. It speaks volumes about evolving social attitudes and our (male) minds .
For myself, I was absolutely thrilled when my wife went through flight training, aged 50! To be honest it was not her gender that impressed me, but her achievement leaning to fly at that age, when our capacity to learn and physical coordination is reduced. Also, I have been an aviation enthusiast since I was a boy, reading Biggles and hearing my dads stories of flying Lancasters and Mosquitos over Germany. But my wife had absolutely no prior interest in aviation. We have an aircraft, so she decided she needed to be able to fly it herself. Flying was an entirely practical choice for her.
I understand the cockpit competition that exists between you and your partner. In our case, I generally do the flying only because I have much more experience than my wife. Having said that, I will be deliberately be pushing her to get her hours up, and as she becomes more confident, regularly share the flying with her. She never flies alone, whereas I regularly do. But having our aircraft hangared at home, she will free to take off and do a few circuits and scenic flights whenever she wants, if she wishes to build her hours. I will of course come along if she wants a second pilot in the right seat.
So, do you do your partners BFRs? Is that even allowed? :)
Cheers
Alan